As a mom, I'm used to fielding tough questions like, "where does Batman keep his special car?" and "why don't they make towtrucks for broken airplanes?" with very creative answers, but yesterday Hank asked me a question that has caused me to pause and reflect on my answer. Sitting together at the bar, with Ben pulled up beside us in his highchair, Hank leaned over to me and whispered a question in my ear, "Mom, do you think Ben will be like Evan?" Evan is a very different looking little boy with obvious physical impairments, but who is always happy and friendly, whom Hank has met and enjoys playing with at Ben's therapy center. Caught off-guard, I thought for a moment and then told Hank that I think Ben will be just like Ben. Hank seemed satisfied with my response and returned to eating his lunch without any further questions. Ben is so lucky to have Hank and Max for brothers--loyal protectors who will always love him and ACCEPT him just for being Ben. In that seemingly innocuous question, I understood a small part of Ben's mission on this earth--to teach others compassion and acceptace. And lucky me, I get to watch as my amazing little boys change the world one person, one opinion, at a time.
"You will have significant experiences. I hope that you will write them down and keep a record of them, that you will read them from time to time and refresh your memory of those meaningful and significant things. Some may be funny. Some may be significant only to you. Some of them may be sacred and quietly beautiful. Some may build one upon another until they represent a lifetime of special experiences." Gordon B. Hinckley, 2006